So, you’ve wanted to be a “Bull” and now you’ve found that
perfect couple. She’s a Hotwife looking for a regular lover. He’s a cuckold (or
wants to be) and he’s willing to step aside and let you and his wife become
lovers.
Now what?
This is where the men get separated from the boys, pal. I
have real experience with this. I’ve seen the best and the worst, of both
people and experiences. I’ve also talked to others and shared many stories of
real life experiences.
First of all, most single guys are totally
clueless when it comes to being a real “Bull” in a cuckold-Hotwife
relationship. They think being a Bull is nothing more than fucking someone’s
wife. Nothing could be farther from the truth, and this is why most fail
miserably.
What most guys fail to understand is that it’s a THREE-WAY RELATIONSHIP.
In fact it can be even more complex than
a normal relationship because it involves THREE people, not two.
But wait, you say. I only want to fuck someone’s wife. I
don’t need a relationship with her husband. WRONG! You fail. Go back to AFF and
start looking for single chicks, because you don’t get it.
On the other hand if you want to learn something that could
lead to a higher quality, more satisfying sex life than chasing 20-something year
old, clingy, airheaded drama queens then do read on.
Being a Bull means you’re coming into an existing marital
relationship. Before you even show up at the door understand that the couple
has already discussed what they want long before reaching out for someone like
you. Your first job is to find out exactly what they want, and then FIT INTO
it.
Then you must follow a certain protocol to create a new three-way
relationship. One word of advice: no matter what you expect the relationship to
become later, during the first meeting or two you should be a complete
gentleman. Until you get some signal from the couple you should NOT initiate
anything sexual or act as anything other than a complete gentleman. Even if
things should progress into the bedroom during the second (or even first)
meeting, you should progress slowly and not overwhelm them.
The perfect relationship WILL NOT happen instantly. It takes
an investment of time by everyone INCLUDING YOU. Like any sexual relationship, learning
the needs and desires of the other person is a process. As you learn the couple,
and they learn you, the relationship becomes more comfortable and the sex gets
better. Eventually it will become what you/they envision, but only if everyone
works together.
Now, let’s start with “what everyone wants”. There are many
variations of cuckold/Hotwife play. Communication is key to getting a clear
picture of the desired relationship. There are many studies and theories as to
the motivations for the Hotwife-cuckold lifestyle among otherwise monogamous
couples. You may want to read up on it, to become better educated about why she
wants to fuck someone else and why he wants her to do so. It is both fascinating
and erotic reading. The better educated you are the better your experience can
be.
The most common underlying theme for most Hotwife/cuckold
couples is for the Bull to become the sex partner of choice for the wife. This
can range from seeing him occasionally, all the way up to daily sexual encounters.
Every couple has a different idea, and it’s important to know what their
expectations are.
In addition, “real life” can and does often restrict or
interfere with the scheduling of play times. As a Bull, it’s important to
realize that you’re dealing with a married couple with job(s), a family, social
obligations, perhaps children, etc. There
will be times when play will need to be canceled or postponed because of the
realities of life. You should always be sensitive to that, and never become
angry about last minute changes, cancellations, etc. Be understanding about these setbacks and
you’ll be rewarded with a more appreciative and willing wife!
Once you establish everyone’s expectations about frequency,
another thing to discuss is how the meetings are arranged. Some prefer regular
schedules, i.e. every Saturday night for instance. Others like more
flexibility, and even spontaneous meetings. Some of the hottest experiences
I’ve been involved with have been spontaneous texts that resulted in
late-night, last minute encounters (Horny? Can you come over? Or can I come see
you?).
It’s important to know what the couple enjoys. If they’re
into the wife having the freedom to reach out to the Bull when she’s horny, or
if you all agree that she’s “sexually on demand” to the Bull, then you can
enjoy impromptu daytime, lunchtime, or late-night quickies.
Many couples enjoy some level of sexual denial for the
husband. Some enjoy limiting intercourse between themselves for several days
before the wife plans to meet with the Bull. Others go so far as limiting the
husband to handjobs, blowjobs, etc., during the entire time that the wife is
seeing another man. This can be a fun area for the Bull to participate, perhaps
demanding that the wife refrain from fucking her husband before their dates,
etc. The Bull may even get enjoyment from voicing his demands to the husband in
the wife’s presence (i.e., I don’t want you fucking her until I do her Friday
night).
The idea of the Bull becoming the sole sexual partner of the
wife can be a fun area to explore, and it’s a core theme in almost all Hotwife-cuckold
relationships, with many choosing for the Bull to become her sole “intercourse”
partner.
Another area to discuss upfront is your communication with
the wife. Some couples prefer that the husband coordinate meetings between his
wife and the Bull. Other husband’s grant their wife complete freedom, and she
can call, email, text, etc. These are by far the easiest and hottest
arrangements, as you can tease, flirt and engage the wife 1-on-1 with complete
privacy.
Next you should discuss what the couple expects when it
comes to you being alone with the wife. Some couples only play together. This
can range from MFM threesomes, to the cuckold husband merely being present and
watching. Other couples prefer that the husband be on the premises, but not
necessarily in the same room, such as waiting in the living room or in the
guest bedroom, perhaps listening in, etc.
Then again, many couples enjoy the wife going out alone on
“dates” with the Bull. Realistically, most “dates” consist of the wife merely
visiting the Bull at his home or a hotel for a sexual encounter. It’s not
uncommon for the husband to help the wife prepare for her dates, often helping
her bathe, do her hair, shave her legs and pussy, pick out sexy clothes and
help her dress. Some Bulls take advantage of this by contacting the husband before
the date and dictating what he wants the wife to wear for the date, and the
husband will select those items for his wife.
Some Hotwife-Bulls will call the husband while having sex and let him
listen in, or videotape themselves having sex so the wife can show it to the
cuckold-husband later. In recent years some have turned to Skype, webcasting
and other internet based products to share their acts with the husband watching
in real time.
There is a certain excitement that can result from the Bull taking
the wife out in public for dinner or a movie, etc. This can be a wise move by a
smart Bull, as it not only starts the relationship off in a more traditional
manner, but there is also some risk of the wife being seen in public with a
strange man. While this may feel uncomfortable for the wife, she will also feel
“naughty” and find it exciting nonetheless, which can lead to heightened sexual
response later in the evening. This also shows that the wife is sufficiently
attracted to the Bull that she will go outside her comfort zone and “take
chances” to be with him. This is a good sign that the Bull will be able to push
the wife in other areas as well, perhaps persuading her to do things that she
may not do with her husband (semi-publix sex, visit a swing club, threesome
with another male/bifemale, etc.).
Some couples enjoy overnight encounters. However, this is
more common with couples that have already experienced some Hotwife-cuckold
play in the past, and is probably not something newer couples would find
appealing. However, if it is a possibility, it’s important to discuss those
details too. There are many
possibilities here, including the wife spending the night at the Bull’s home,
the Bull spending the night at the couple’s home, or even an overnight hotel
stay. Some also enjoy the wife and Bull going together for out-of-town trips,
short cruises, etc.
In those instances where the Bull stays at the couple’s home,
there are variations. Will the Bull and wife sleep in the guest room, or in the
master bedroom? There is often significance to the wife’s “infidelity” and the
marital bed, and the Bull should be sensitive to that. Some couples limit the
wife’s sexual play to places other than the marital bed, i.e. the marital bed
is sacred and only for them.
Other couples derive additional pleasure from the wife
“cheating” in their marital bed, and playing there can be even more exciting
for them. You should discuss this ahead of time. Also, when spending the night
it’s important to be clear about the expectations for the husband. Will he be
present all night? Will he be present only during the sex, then go sleep in a
separate bedroom? The couple often already has an idea of what they would
prefer here, so you should find out.
Decide what other places/variations you all might enjoy.
Some couples fantasize about the wife and Bull having sex in the backseat of a
car or a semi-public spot. Some cuckold husbands enjoy the thought of coming
home from work to find their wife in bed with the Bull, or knowing the Bull was
at his house fucking their wife while they were at the office. Multiple
partners, videotaping sexual encounters, outdoor sex, etc., can all enhance the
experiences to be shared.
Bear in mind that most Hotwife-cuckold couples also focus on
the Bull being “well-hung”, or at least being better hung than the husband.
Ironically this is not something to be avoided around the husband, but instead
should be openly discussed as a point of excitement (she NEEDS a bigger cock
and he LOVES knowing she needs it). Hopefully, as the Bull, you are better
endowed than the husband. However, if not, it’s still possible to build the
desired relationship since much of it has to do with the Bull’s attitude and
manner. If sufficiently assertive and dominant, most any Bull can still pull it
off no matter what his endowment.
The age of the Bull is an area of some debate. Because most
couples are seeking a Bull for the wife’s sexual pleasure, they prefer someone
with a high sex drive and good stamina. Obviously this is more common in
younger men. However, some women find it difficult to be sexually attracted to
men significantly younger than they are. As a general rule I find that most
couples prefer a Bull to be several years younger than the husband, but not so
young as to have insufficient experience to sexually please a mature, married
woman. Confidence, demeanor and a good attitude round it out.
Verbal play can also be critical, with both the wife and the
Bull engaging in some level of interaction with the husband. Experienced Bulls
enjoy telling the husband how enjoyable their wife is in bed, in a teasing,
taunting manner. Common things to say might include: Your wife has a sweet
pussy; She loves my big dick; She sucks cock great; I’m going to fill her with
my cum; This pussy is going to be mine; Your wife is such a slut, etc.
The wife can also participate, working together with the
Bull to stimulate her husband, saying things like: His cock is bigger than
yours; He fucks me much better; I want him to cum in me; Do you like seeing me
like this?; I’m going to fuck him more than you; He’s stretching my pussy out;
etc.
Another important issue is birth control and/or condoms.
These are not necessarily the same. Some couples use no birth control other
than rhythm method. Other couples use birth control, but may want the Bull to
use condoms due to health concerns. This needs to be discussed upfront, and
everyone in agreement. Be aware that this may be one of the few areas where the
wife and husband disagree. The wife may choose the more conservative approach
and opt for condom use, while the husband may prefer that the Bull not use a
condom and ejaculates inside his wife.
This is one reason that the Bull should
befriend the husband, as they can both work together to persuade the wife to
concede and allow the Bull to engage in intercourse and ejaculate freely inside
the wife. For most cuckold husband’s this is one of the most intense aspects of
the act, and he will want his wife to get “creampies” from the Bull.
This can also lead to another angle, which involves the
cuckold husband going down on his wife after she has had sex. Often called
“clean up duty”, it is a staple of most cuckold desires. This act can be an
intense experience for the husband, as it totally immerses the senses in the
undeniable fact that his wife has been “slutty and unfaithful”, which is what
turns him on the most. Many couples do this after the wife returns home from a
“date”, but it also can occur soon or immediately after a sexual encounter at
home.
If the three of you play in each other’s presence then be
prepared to include this after you engage in intercourse with the wife. The act
itself can have a slight humiliation aspect to it, and some cuckolds enjoy
being “told” to do this by the wife and/or the Bull. It can be both a
post-sexual act to bring the wife to another orgasm, as well as a means to
prepare the wife for the next round of intercourse.
Also, remember that relationships evolve. For instance, at
first the wife may want her husband to be present for all sexual play. Later
she may become comfortable playing while her husband is in another room. That
could eventually lead to her playing alone, and visiting the Bull at his home.
Or perhaps the couple isn’t interested in an overnight stay at first, but in
time they may become comfortable with that idea. Many ideas can become more
appealing as the relationship progresses.
There is one rather extreme variation of the Hotwife-cuckold
theme, which is the idea of the wife becoming pregnant by the Bull. In reality
almost all couples separate this fantasy from reality. No sane couple would
intentionally bring a child into the world just to fulfill a sexual fantasy.
But an offshoot that is a common theme is “pregnancy risk sex”. Some couples
find it more exciting if the wife has intercourse with the Bull during times
when she is near ovulation. Others like to use the withdrawal method during
this time of her cycle, playing with fire so to speak.
Some wives are reluctant to openly discuss this fantasy, as
they find it is little too close to reality for them. After all, pregnancy COULD
happen. Yet, the idea can still turn them. Nature’s urges can be strong, and they
can be exploited by a smart Bull. I know wives who get extra wet at the thought
that they could get pregnant from the good looking guy pumping his sperm in
them. Many wives also fantasize about a man who refuses to pull out at the last
minute, or being close to ovulation and so aroused that they don’t have the
willpower to ask the Bull to pull out at the last second. Keep this in mind if
you want to enhance your encounters with a Hotwife. It can be a powerful
addition to the experience.
After discussing all of those important issues, you should
have a good idea whether or not your desires and those of the couple are a good
match. If they are, then what you need to do is craft a plan that has one
important goal: You must now become
the Alpha Male in the relationship.
All social mammals have Alpha Males. They are the fastest,
strongest and/or smartest males in the pack. Females are instinctively drawn to
the Alpha Male because they have the best genetic material. Human females are
no different. If two men are in her life, a woman will instinctively become
more attracted to the Alpha Male.
When you come into the relationship, remember that you are
altering an existing bond between two people. There is an emotional bond and a
sexual bond. You don’t EVER want to do anything that interferes or hurts the
emotional bond. If you do, both the husband and the wife will react negatively.
In fact the strong emotional bond is required to give them the comfort to
include a third person in their relationship. If you weaken the emotional bond
between the husband and wife then insecurities, jealousy, etc. will emerge and
ruin everything. NEVER ever make a play for the wife as anything other than a
sex partner. If you do so everything will come to an end.
However, the sexual bond is entirely different. Not only CAN
you break that bond, you MUST break it. Breaking their sexual bond, and then your
bonding sexually with the wife, must be your goal. When it comes to sex, you want her to think
of you first (perhaps only).
When you first meet the couple, know that the wife loves her
husband and looks to him for sex. If you do everything right, in time she will
still love him but she will LUST FOR YOU if she begins to view you as the Alpha
Male.
Becoming the Alpha Male in the wife’s eye is easy, but only
if you follow a certain path.
First, you must befriend her husband. That’s right. He needs
to become your buddy. This should involve some light male bonding, such as
watching a few ball games, drinking some beer together, a fishing trip,
whatever. In addition, the first time or two you are together with the couple
you need to play the role of buddy with the husband (even if you’ve already
started having sex with the wife). After all, you and he are on the same team.
You want to take his wife away, sexually speaking. He wants the same thing,
because more than anything he wants to see her become an insatiable slut. So
make him a friend and keep him a friend. That way he will always be an ally,
and there WILL come times when you’re trying to persuade the wife to try
something, and having her husband as an ally can be very helpful!
By the third visit, you should begin to assert yourself a
bit. Ask the husband to get your drinks and refills AND ask him to get the
wife’s drink too! This is very important, as it shows that you’re looking out
for her (“YOUR woman”). You can bet that the wife will notice this too,
although she probably won’t say anything.
If you’ve already started having sex with the wife, take
this same attitude into the bedroom. At first, suggest that the husband sit and
watch you two have sex. You want to mostly ignore him. Act as if he’s not
there. The wife should be your focus. But at some point act like you’re thirsty
and ask him to go get drinks for you and YOUR lady. Ask him to get a towel or
lube or whatever else you can think of. Make up tasks if you have to. The point
is to have him do things when you ask.
During later visits this should progress to you telling him
what to do in the bedroom. You should get no resistance if you progress slowly from
being his buddy… to asking him to do things… to telling him what to do. It will
seem like a natural progression for everyone involved, including the wife (who
will be noticing everything).
Many wives get aroused watching this progression. That
arousal is going to benefit you. In her eyes you will be emerging as the Alpha
Male. Eventually, you should be able to tell the husband to do anything
non-sexual, and he will oblige.
Next, take it to the sexual level. You want to get him
involved and excited, while making it clear that you’re still in charge. Have
him suck his wife’s breasts or rub her clit when you’re fucking her. Have him
grab her ankles and pull her legs wider apart when you’re pumping your cock
into her. Have him go down on her before you fuck her, to get her wet and
ready. Have him kiss his wife deeply while you make her cum.
You can do anything you want, as long as he gets involved.
At times when he’s doing something be sure tell him to stop and go sit back
down. Show him that you’re in control. Another thing to do is tell him to take
out his cock and masturbate while he watches. Tell him to cum while watching
his wife getting laid. Again, use your imagination, as long as you’re telling
him reasonable things to do. Remember, the wife will be watching too, and she
will notice how much more dominant you’re becoming.
Once things have progressed to this point the wife should really
be into you, and should see you as the Alpha Male. In her eyes, you should have
completely replaced her husband in the bedroom. If she still seems to split her
allegiance between him and you, or if you just want to take it to a deeper
level, consider another step: making the husband put your cock in his mouth.
Believe it or not this has nothing to do with gay or bi-male
sex. It’s strictly about domination. If you’ve ever watched wildlife footage of
a wolf pack, you’ve noticed the body language of other males when they’re around
the dominant Alpha Male. They maintain a low body stance, and even physically
roll over showing their underbelly. They submit completely. Not only does the
Alpha Male see this, all of the female wolves notice it too. That’s why the
Alpha Male gets the females.
If you REALLY want the wife to be “yours” sexually, let her
watch you being dominant over her husband. Most wives will tell you that there’s
no way you could ever get their husband to suck your cock. If you want to have
fun, bet the wife that you can make him do it. But tell her she has to help encourage
him to do it. When you get him to do it you will impress her and arouse her at
the same time. Plus, it’s one hell of a power trip.
Now, to be sure, we’re NOT talking about a blowjob. That’s
for the wife to do. You just want the wife to see her own husband take your
cock into his mouth. After this happens the first time then have fun with it.
For instance, you can have the husband go down on his wife to get her wet and
ready for penetration, then have him suck your cock for a minute to get you hard,
and then guide the tip of your shaft into his wife’s pussy. To learn how to
make this happen, click here (How to get a straight husband to suck a cock).
Once things reach this point, the wife will see you as the
Alpha Male whenever you’re together. When she gets horny, she’ll think of you.
She’ll fantasize about you, and do anything within her limits to please you
sexually.
With married women it’s ALL about the sex. They’re not into
drama and they’re not seeking commitment. She won’t be stalking you and you
won’t find her crying on your front doorstep. When she calls or texts she wants
to fuck. When you need sex you can call or text her and she’ll come running.
Better yet, her husband will encourage it all and help with the arrangements.
You’ll get more sex and better quality sex from a willing, married woman than you
will with most single women out there.
That’s why it’s so worth the time investment to build and
cultivate the ultimate Bull-Hotwife-cuck relationship!
Good luck.
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